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Why I got divorced

May 10th, 2010  |  by  |  Published in Divorce 'n' Custody  |  3 Comments

From time to time, I wonder if JP would have been better off I’d never split up with his mother. It’s usually a micro-spasm of guilt at knowing he has to adjust to separation from one parent or the other all the time. Then I remember what it was liking living with his mother, and I realize I actually did him a favor. For a taste of what my married life was like, please enjoy the lovely video below. And JP, know I did it all for you.


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  1. Clark Kent's Lunchbox says:

    May 11th, 2010at 7:25 am(#)

    I think the same thing about my divorce and my three boys, but then come to the same conclusion. I also see it at a catalyst that made me a better, more attentive father.

  2. Carly says:

    May 11th, 2010at 11:45 am(#)

    I’m taking a break from my usual nonstop commenting on Nathan’s posts to weigh in on this one. First, thanks for the Abramovic in the morning. Better than coffee. Second, your child, and all children of divorces handled with aplomb and as little acrimony on dropoff days as possible, will be fine, better than fine, he will come to thank you for giving him the independence of a young child in a shared custody arrangement. He will not remember what having two parents in the same house ever felt like. He may even one day come to love additional, special parents, called step-parents, and all the extended family and support that comes with them. Normal will be one parent one week, another the other, maybe even one parent Sept-May and another June-August, and really it will be fine.

  3. dadwagon says:

    May 11th, 2010at 11:52 am(#)

    Carly–glad to know that conceptual art was enough to get you off the Nathan train. That’s the kinda reader we like around here. Appreciate the comments, too. –Theodore.

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