By and large I’m gonna say, Hanna Rosin notwithstanding, that it’s still a pretty good deal being an hombre, even if we have to undergo certain fundamental religious procedures to ensure hygiene (while potentially losing sensitivity).
Yet from time to time here at DadWagon we seem to position ourselves as an aggrieved minority: no one cares about fathers; women rule the household like tyrants; men don’t get equal bonding leave; blah, blah, blah.
We know it’s not true. Men still have it easy. We still get to get drunk with our babies more than the ladies; we still get to punk out on household chore; we still get to have toys the ladies and the children aren’t allowed to touch. And you know what else?
WE DON’T HAVE TO JOIN MOMMY GROUPS. Thank god for that. I wonder who thought this whole practice up? It strikes me as more than slightly insane. Consider: women with newborns, hard up for sleep, neurotic over breastfeeding, in full panic about diaper rash, gather together in cafes to speak ill of their male partners. Fun!
Worse, it seems to bring out the part of the female personality that concerns itself with disliking other women. Tomoko’s stories about getting involved in a mother’s group sound like case studies in passive aggression, tribal resentment, and bald-faced, feeding-bra-ed, cut-throat competition.
If all the mothers in a mommy’s group hate all of the other mothers in the mommy’s group, why then is there a mommy’s group?
Riddle me that friends. Riddle me that.